Vicki Diemert
Christian Marriage & Relational Coaching | Couples Coaching | Individual Coaching & Story Work | Relational Facilitation
About
Faith-integrated, trauma-informed coaching and story work for couples and individuals navigating broken trust, betrayal, and relational harm.
Your relationship isn't working. You want it to change. You just don't know how.
You've had the conversations. Maybe there have been apologies, promises to change, counseling, or another attempt to start over. Now you're asking harder questions: Is the change real? Can trust actually be rebuilt? Am I expecting too much or accepting too little? What is mine to own when the other person won't change? And what would meaningful repair actually require?
These aren't communication problems. They're clarity problems. And clarity is where this work begins.
I don't begin with a predetermined outcome for the relationship. I help people see clearly enough to discern what healing, meaningful change, accountability, and repair actually require.
Who this is for
Your relationship isn't working. You want it to change. You just don't know how.
You've had the conversations. Maybe there have been apologies, promises to change, counseling, or another attempt to start over. Now you're asking harder questions: Is the change real? Can trust actually be rebuilt? Am I expecting too much or accepting too little? What is mine to own when the other person won't change? And what would meaningful repair actually require?
These aren't communication problems. They're clarity problems. And clarity is where this work begins.
I don't begin with a predetermined outcome for the relationship. I help people see clearly enough to discern what healing, meaningful change, accountability, and repair actually require.
Who this is for
- Broken trust and betrayal — including infidelity, hidden patterns, and the slow erosion of safety
- Repeated conflict that doesn't resolve, no matter how many conversations you have
- Marriages at a crossroads — where the question is no longer "how do we fix this" but "what do we do now"
- Church hurt and relational harm from faith communities
- Personal stories — from childhood, family of origin, or past relationships — that are still shaping how you show up today
Ways to work together
- Couples Coaching
- Individual Coaching & Story Work
- Narrative Focused Trauma Care
- Relational Facilitation
- Groups
About Vicki
I have spent more than a decade working with couples and individuals in some of the most difficult relational terrain there is. For eight of those years, I served as a counseling director in a church — which means I have seen, up close, both the ways faith communities can hold people well and the ways they can cause profound harm.
Training & credentials
- MA, Biblical Counseling
- CCEF Certificates — Christian Counseling & Educational Foundation
- Narrative Focused Trauma Care, Levels 1–3 — The Allender Center
- Trauma-Informed Couples Therapy — Reconnect Institute
In person in Arizona's East Valley — Queen Creek, Gilbert, Chandler, Mesa, and San Tan Valley. Virtual coaching available throughout the United States.
The Healing Narrative Coaching LLC is not a licensed mental health practice. Vicki Diemert offers coaching, story work, and relational facilitation services. If you are in crisis or need clinical mental health care, I will help you find the right support.
Not sure where to begin? Start with the Free Discovery Call below.
Packages
Free Discovery Call
You don't have to know exactly what kind of help you need. This free 30-minute call is a chance to describe what you're navigating, ask questions, and get a clear sense of whether Couples Coaching, Individual Coaching & Story Work, Narrative Focused Trauma Care, Relational Facilitation, or Groups makes sense for your situation. No obligation to continue.
Couples Coaching: Single Session
For couples where the question is no longer "how do we fix this" but "what is actually happening, and what would real repair require?" 60-minute sessions with both partners present, in person in Arizona's East Valley (Queen Creek, Gilbert, Chandler, Mesa, and San Tan Valley) or by video call anywhere in the U.S.
Five-Session Package
Five connected 60-minute sessions for individuals or couples who need more than a single conversation to understand a relational wound, recurring pattern, church hurt, or difficult decision. Can include structured Narrative Focused Trauma Care. In person in Arizona's East Valley or by video call anywhere in the U.S.
Individual Coaching & Story Work: Single Session
One-on-one work focused on your story: what happened, how it shaped you, and what clearer understanding might make possible. For individuals navigating betrayal, broken trust, harm from a faith community, or relational patterns that keep showing up. 60 minutes, in person in Arizona's East Valley or by video call anywhere in the U.S.
Testimonials
"Working with Vicki helped me understand reactions I’ve had for years that I could never quite explain. I had prayed about certain struggles and tried to move forward, but the patterns kept repeating. Through our conversations, I began to see how earlier experiences were shaping how I interpreted situations and responded to people. What surprised me most was how compassionate the process felt. Instead of feeling judged or analyzed, I felt understood. That alone brought a sense of relief and clarity I hadn’t experienced before."
- — Coaching Client
"Vicki has a way of listening that helps you hear your own story differently. I came in feeling confused about why certain situations in my life were still affecting me so deeply. She helped me slow down and look at experiences I had mostly pushed aside. For the first time, the emotional patterns I was struggling with actually started to make sense. Our work together helped me approach my faith and my emotions with more honesty and less pressure to simply ‘get over it.’"
- -Individual Coaching Client
"One of the most meaningful parts of working with Vicki was the sense of safety she created. I never felt rushed to share more than I was ready to, yet the questions she asked helped me see connections in my story that I had never considered before. It helped me understand why certain relationships felt so difficult and why some situations triggered such strong responses. I left our sessions with a deeper sense of clarity and a more compassionate view of my own story."
- Coaching Client
Frequently Asked Questions
Can I begin if my spouse is not willing to participate?
Yes. One spouse can begin individually through Individual Coaching & Story Work. This work can help you understand the relational pattern, consider your own responses and boundaries, and discern what may be appropriate next. Individual coaching is not a strategy for controlling or diagnosing your spouse, and it does not presume that reconciliation is always possible. Couples Coaching sessions are held with both partners present, and individual sessions may be incorporated.
Do you work with individuals as well as couples?
Yes. I offer Couples Coaching, Individual Coaching & Story Work, Narrative Focused Trauma Care, and Relational Facilitation for couples, families, and ministry teams. Individual work may focus on betrayal, broken trust, church hurt, recurring patterns, boundaries, difficult decisions, or preparing for an important conversation.
How long does coaching last?
There is no predetermined timeline. A single session may be sufficient for one focused concern. The Five-Session Package provides continuity for a pattern or situation that needs more time. Couples and relational work may continue longer when appropriate, with pacing determined by readiness and safety. We will pause periodically to consider what has surfaced, what remains unresolved, and whether continuing would be helpful.
Is this therapy or marriage counseling?
No. I am a coach and story worker, not a licensed mental health therapist. The Healing Narrative Coaching LLC provides coaching, story work, and relational facilitation. These services are not licensed therapy, medical or mental health treatment, legal advice, or crisis intervention. If you are in crisis, experiencing active suicidal ideation, or need a clinical diagnosis or treatment, I will help you find the right support.
Will I be pressured to forgive or reconcile?
No. Forgiveness is not used to bypass truth, grief, impact, responsibility, boundaries, or safety. Reconciliation is not presumed. Meaningful repair requires honesty, accountability, consistent change, and a willingness to understand impact over time.
What if there is abuse or an immediate safety concern?
Safety comes first. Coaching and facilitation are not emergency or crisis services and may not be appropriate when there is an immediate threat, coercive control, or active abuse. If you or another person may be in danger, contact local emergency services, a domestic violence resource, or an appropriately licensed professional before scheduling.
What is the difference between coaching and relational facilitation?
Coaching focuses on helping an individual or couple understand what is happening, recognize patterns, explore their story, and discern next steps. Relational Facilitation brings the same trauma-informed, narrative-focused approach to couples, families, or ministry teams whose conversations need a different kind of structure — when pain is high, trust is low, or people no longer believe they can hear one another. It is tailored to the situation, begins with a discovery conversation, and does not guarantee agreement or reconciliation.
Should I begin with one session or five?
Choose a single session (Couples Coaching or Individual Coaching & Story Work) when you have one focused concern, conversation, or decision. Choose the Five-Session Package when you need continuity to understand a relational wound, recurring pattern, church hurt, or difficult decision over time. If you are unsure, begin with a Free Discovery Call.
Do you work online and in person?
Both. I meet with clients in person in Arizona's East Valley — Queen Creek, Gilbert, Chandler, Mesa, and San Tan Valley — and offer virtual sessions throughout the United States. Relational Facilitation for families, ministry teams, and small organizations is discussed individually.
What happens during the Discovery Call?
The Free Discovery Call is a 30-minute conversation — not a sales pitch, not a session. It is a chance to describe what you are navigating, ask questions, and get a clear sense of whether Couples Coaching, Individual Coaching & Story Work, Narrative Focused Trauma Care, Relational Facilitation, or Groups makes sense for your situation. There is no obligation to continue.
Can I heal without revisiting my past?
Healing doesn’t require reliving everything—but it does require understanding what shaped you. Avoiding your story often keeps you stuck in it.
How do I know whether trust can be rebuilt after betrayal?
Trust is not restored by an apology, a promise, or pressure to move forward. Rebuilding trust usually requires honesty, accountability, consistent change, appropriate boundaries, and a willingness to understand the impact of what happened. Coaching can help you slow the situation down, identify what meaningful repair would require, and discern whether those conditions are present. Reconciliation is not presumed.
Do you help churches navigate relational conflict?
Yes. Relational Facilitation is available for couples, families, ministry teams, and small organizations navigating significant conflict, harm, or breakdown, including church hurt and leadership conflict. It is customized to the group and situation and can be a one-time engagement or ongoing. Begin with a Free Discovery Call so we can discuss the circumstances and whether this work is an appropriate fit.
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