Known and Loved Coaching
Supporting Christian women as they heal from relational trauma, rebuild trust, and rediscover peace.
About
Hi, I'm Kate Ferrill and I'm so happy you are here. I know what it's like to experience relationship trauma. After spending years constantly second-guessing myself and fearing the future, I finally decided to do something about it. What started as a quest to conquer my own dysfunctional relationships has turned into a system that has helped hundreds of my members step into who they really are and confidently show up in their lives like never before. Let's get to know each other: Read my story here. 🤍
Packages
The Discovery Session
Are you ready to break the relationship cycle that keeps you trapped? This 30-minute discovery session is a chance for me to get to know you and learn about your challenges. We will devise a plan of action together so that you feel empowered and hopeful about overcoming your current obstacles.
90-Minute Healing Intensive
A deep-dive 90-minute coaching session for women ready to move out of survival mode, gain clarity after toxic relationships, and take aligned, confident next steps.
Peace Beyond Understanding Course
In this four-module course, you will learn about God's heart for the suffering and how you can use your emotions to help propel your healing forward. Explore short video lessons with homework to solidify your learning, and devotionals to lift your spirits throughout this journey.
Setting Boundaries with Toxic People
Boundaries God’s Way is a 4-week faith-based course that shows you how to say “no” without guilt, protect your peace, and honor God with healthy relationships. In just one month, you’ll learn practical strategies rooted in Scripture to recognize manipulation, stop people-pleasing, and finally feel confident setting boundaries that last. This isn’t about pushing people away — it’s about creating the safety and freedom you need to live the life God has called you to.
Refuge Courses & Community
Refuge is a faith-filled space to calm your nervous system, heal from survival mode, and experience God’s peace, safety, and restoration.
.jpg)
Reclaim Your Self Group Coaching
Using somatic practices, trauma-informed tools, and the truth of Scripture, you'll finally move healing out of your head and into your body, where it actually sticks.
.jpg)
Testimonials
"I can't express in words how much this program helped me in such a difficult and heartbreaking time. I walked away better and stronger than I ever knew possible."
- Jennifer
Kate has helped me discover how wonderfully God created me, how much he loves me and how the hurts of the past don't need to dictate my future.
- Cassandra
I am now living in peace and enjoying so many things about my life, my values, and what fills up my cup.
- Jessie
Free Discovery Session
Let's meet so that we can learn more about each other
Frequently Asked Questions
What exactly happens during a one-on-one coaching session?
During your 60-minute private coaching session, we focus entirely on YOU—your specific situation, challenges, and what you need most right now.
Here's how it typically works:
We'll start by identifying what feels most urgent or heavy for you. Maybe it's:
- A specific boundary you need to set but don't know how
- A difficult conversation you're dreading
- Confusion about whether you're the problem or they are
- Processing something that just happened
- Deciding whether to stay or leave a relationship
From there, we'll work together to:
- Get clarity on what's actually happening (vs. what you've been told is happening)
- Identify the manipulation tactics being used against you
- Create a practical action plan with specific steps
- Practice boundary scripts for your exact situation
- Address the guilt, fear, or doubt that's keeping you stuck
This isn't generic advice. It's personalized coaching based on YOUR circumstances, YOUR personality, and what YOU need to move forward.
You'll leave with:
- Clear next steps
- Confidence in your decisions
- Language/scripts for difficult conversations
- A recording of the session to revisit anytime
Think of it as having a compassionate guide who understands relational trauma walk you through exactly what you're facing—and help you create a path forward.
Is one session enough, or will I need multiple sessions?
It depends on what you're working through—and that's completely okay.
One session might be enough if:
- You have a specific, immediate situation that needs clarity (like "How do I respond to this text?" or "Should I attend this family gathering?")
- You need help creating a boundary script for a particular conversation
- You want an outside perspective on whether what you're experiencing is actually abuse
- You need support processing something that just happened
Multiple sessions might be helpful if:
- You're navigating an ongoing complex situation (divorce, custody battle, living with a narcissist)
- You want continued support as you implement boundaries and face pushback
- You're working through deeper patterns or trauma responses
- You find the accountability and personalized guidance valuable
Here's the beautiful part: You get to decide.
There's no pressure to commit to multiple sessions. Book one, see how it feels, and decide from there if you want ongoing support.
Many clients find:
- They book one session for immediate help with a crisis
- Then return for follow-up sessions as new situations arise
- Or transition to Hope and Healing Community for ongoing group support between individual sessions
You're in control of what support looks like for you. There's no "right" amount of coaching—only what serves YOUR healing journey.
What if I'm not sure I'm ready to talk about everything yet? Can I still book a session?
Absolutely. You don't have to have it all figured out to book a session.
In fact, many women book their first coaching session feeling:
- Uncertain about whether they're "ready"
- Worried they won't know what to say
- Afraid they'll cry the whole time (spoiler: it's okay if you do)
- Unsure if their situation is "bad enough" to need coaching
- Nervous about being vulnerable with someone new
Here's what I want you to know:
âś“ You don't need to be "ready" to get support. Sometimes support is what MAKES you ready.
âś“ You don't have to tell me everything. We'll focus on whatever you feel comfortable sharing. You're in control of what we discuss.
✓ Crying is welcome here. This is a safe space. Tears aren't a sign you're "too emotional"—they're a sign you've been holding too much for too long.
✓ Your situation is "bad enough." If it's affecting your peace, your mental health, or your ability to function—it matters. You don't have to wait until it's "worse" to get help.
âś“ You won't be judged. Not for staying. Not for leaving. Not for being confused. Not for anything.
What we CAN do in a session even if you're not ready to go deep:
- Clarify whether what you're experiencing is actually abuse
- Identify one small boundary you could set this week
- Talk through your fears about what might happen if you make changes
- Process the confusion and self-doubt you're feeling
- Create a safety plan if you're considering leaving
- Simply validate that what you're experiencing is real
You don't have to have all the answers before you book the session. That's what the session is FOR—to help you find the answers.
Think of it this way: You wouldn't wait until you're "healthy enough" to see a doctor. You go TO the doctor to get help getting healthy.
Same with coaching. You don't have to be "ready enough" or "healed enough" to book a session. You book the session to GET ready and GET healed.
Come exactly as you are. That's enough. đź’›
Will you tell me to leave my relationship, or will you support me if I'm staying?
I will never tell you to leave or stay. That's YOUR decision, and I respect it completely.
Here's my approach:
If you're thinking about leaving: I'll help you:
- Clarify what you're feeling and why
- Create a safety plan if needed
- Prepare for the practical and emotional realities of leaving
- Identify what support you'll need
- Work through the fear, guilt, and doubt that comes up
If you're staying (by choice or circumstance): I'll help you:
- Set boundaries to protect yourself within the relationship
- Identify what you CAN control (yourself, your responses, your environment)
- Develop coping strategies for managing the ongoing stress
- Recognize when you're being manipulated so you can respond from clarity
- Care for yourself and maintain your sanity in a difficult situation
If you're unsure: I'll help you:
- Get clarity on what you're actually dealing with
- Explore what both options (staying vs. leaving) would look like
- Identify what's keeping you stuck in indecision
- Work through the confusion, ambivalence, and mixed feelings
- Take whatever next step feels right for YOU (even if that step is "wait")
Here's what I believe:
✓ You're the expert on your own life. You know things I don't—your circumstances, your resources, your children, your safety, your faith, your values. My job isn't to tell you what to do. It's to help you access YOUR wisdom.
✓ Leaving isn't always possible or safe. Financial limitations, custody concerns, lack of support, cultural/religious factors, safety risks—these are REAL barriers. I won't shame you for staying when leaving isn't viable.
âś“ Staying doesn't mean accepting abuse. You can stay AND set boundaries. You can stay AND protect yourself. You can stay AND work on your own healing. Staying doesn't mean you've given up or failed.
âś“ There's no timeline for your decision. Some women know immediately they need to leave. Others need months or years to get there. Both are valid. Your pace is YOUR pace.
What I WILL do:
- Believe you
- Validate your experience
- Help you see manipulation tactics clearly
- Empower you to make the decision that's right for YOU
- Support whatever decision you make
- Hold space for the complexity, confusion, and grief that comes with all of this
What I WON'T do:
- Pressure you to leave
- Judge you for staying
- Minimize the barriers you're facing
- Give you a one-size-fits-all answer
- Make your healing about fitting someone else's timeline
Bottom line: This is YOUR life. YOUR decision. YOUR journey. My job is to walk beside you—not to push you in any direction.
Whether you stay or leave, you deserve support. And that's what I'm here to provide. đź’›
Let's Connect